What’s Your Daring?
I’ve jumped out of a perfectly capable flying plane. I’ve searched, knee deep, for anaconda’s in the amazon river. I’ve travelled through the middle east as a single white female. I’ve bungee jumped three time with the third time being backwards. I’ve scuba dived with hammerhead sharks and massive eagle rays in turbulent waters around Galapagos Islands. I’ve played roller hockey, a fast pace contact sport, with a hundred plus men and only five women in the competition. I’ve jumped off a three story boat into the ocean, for fun and it really hurt when I landed on my side! Physically I’ve been very daring in my life with some bits of stupidity thrown in. Mentally I’ve been daring too. I’ve contemplated what’s at the end of the universe, many times – still struggling with that one and I’m still trying to comprehend string theory. I read books on neuroscience, philosophy, psychology, and physics – with year ten science and no formal university education in these areas.
I seem pretty daring, right? BUT, and this is a BIG BUT, ask me to go on stage and give a talk. I start to panic. I’ve done it before and I’m like a deer in headlights! I choke. It terrifies me – all those people looking at me, waiting for me to say something. My heart jumps into my throat, I start sweating profusely, oxygen stops flowing to my brain because I’ve stopped breathing normally. The english language eludes me and my words jumble up. Same thing happened to me recently when I got in front of a video camera with only a small audience of six. I’ve been avoiding public speaking for over a decade now. In business, I haven’t been as emotionally daring as I could be.
We all have levels of what’s daring. Some of us are physically daring and not emotionally and mentally. Some of us might be all or just two or none. Being daring is subjective. It can mean stretching yourself or going outside your areas of comfort with one foot out and one foot in. Other times jumping out with both feet, taking that big leap.
Different situations will evoke different responses of daringness from us. We don’t need to be daring all the time but what if your lack of daring is holding you back from what your really want. What if, by being a bit more daring you get new opportunities for your business. What if, by being a bit more daring you start standing out from the millions of business that aren’t being daring.
When you are daring, it might just work out better than you imagined. It can be exhilarating, liberating, amazing and unexpected things can and do happen.
Here’s some questions to consider:
- What have you done in your past, business and/ or personal, that gave you the hee-bee jee-bees but you did it anyway and found it worked out better than you expected?
- Is there currently something within your business that you really want to do, that’s daring for you, but you’ve delayed or procrastinated on?
- Would being more bold, adventurous, courageous make a difference to your business? If so, how?
What was daring for me three years ago is no longer daring. Commit to stretching your comfort areas enough times and they can’t help but expand. The art is to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. This does not mean risking everything you’ve got. Is there any point in potentially losing the house, the wife, the kids and the dogs? Be daring because the downside risk is low compared to the potential gain. It’s that gain to focus on.
So, what’s your daring?
Article By Angelique Milojevic